Osinachi Nwachukwu’s death has prompted the Catholic Church in Nigeria to confirmed that even if there is no divorce in the Church, there is “something called separation from bed and board and there is something called nullification”
Speaking during a church service, Reverend Father Chinenye Oluoma, advised women who are in abusive marriages to leave now.
Oluomo told his congregation that,
‘‘If your husband is beating you, he will kill you one day. He will kill you one day. Police may arrest him, after a while they leave him. He may even leave long and remarry and if he remarries, another wicked woman, the children you suffered for, will be maltreating the children. Runaway. There is nothing pious, nothing spiritual about staying in a marrriage and you are dying gradually.
“If he doesn’t kill you instantly, he will damage your vital organs and you will die at the age of 60 or fifty something. They will think it is sickness that killed you. Run away I have told you.
“This is the Catholic church. We don’t believe in divorce but there is something called separation from bed and board and there is something called nullification”
However, Father Chinenye Oluoma did not explain the concept of ”separation from bed and board” and how marriages are nullified in the Catholic church.
Taking to another post on Instagram fadaoluoma added:
DON’T DIE AVOIDABLE DEATH.
In one of the parishes I worked, a woman always came to me with bloodied nose and swollen face, fatal decoration from the man she called her husband. It was always a dilemma counselling her because I could see her helplessness. The next thing she feared more than loosing her life to her beastly husband was actually losing her marriage to him. To worsen her case, she didn’t have anything doing economically.
Long story short, I finally convinced her to run for her life, after receiving more bouts of life threatening beatings. I paid for her transportation to her Uncle’s house. After two weeks, she came telling me that the man called and begged her to come back, she was obviously looking for my approval for her chicken hearted and Lilly livered disposition. In my magnanimity, I chased her back to her uncle’s house.
After some months, the man went to beg. When I was consulted, I told the uncle to give the man two major conditions: 1. Empower the woman economocally. 2. Deposit an undertaken never to beat her with the police and the uncle.
Death in marriage by the hand of an abusive spouse is avoidable, don’t honor it. We all woke up to the sad news of the death of Osinachi, a gospel singer, famously known for the song EKWUEME. suddenly, the cause of her death started filtering. I’m now reading that she died from injuries from violence by her husband.
The news going round now is that she’s been enduring this violence for years. So, her death, for me, was avoidable. Whatever made her to stay in that marriage despite constant life threatening violence CAN NEVER be godly.
There’s nothing pious and righteous about enduring life threatening violence till death. The Bible never says ” Blessed are those who are killed by their husbands or wives, for theirs is the kingdom” nope, it rather says “Blessed are you when men persecute you and speak all kinds of calumny against you on my account, rejoice and be glad for your reward will be great in heaven” Mtt 5:11-12.
If spousal violence is the cause of Osinachi’s death, she won’t be the first, I don’t know if she will be the last, but I hope her’s will help in the libe
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